Ron Lieber
The Opposite of Spoiled: Raising Kids Who Are Grounded, Generous, and Smart About Money
May 02, 2019 Comments.. 260
The Opposite of Spoiled Raising Kids Who Are Grounded Generous and Smart About Money Read by the author In the spirit of Wendy Mogel s The Blessing of a Skinned Knee and Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman s Nurture Shock New York Times Your Money columnist Ron Lieber delivers a taboo sha
  • Title: The Opposite of Spoiled: Raising Kids Who Are Grounded, Generous, and Smart About Money
  • Author: Ron Lieber
  • ISBN: 9780062401519
  • Page: 146
  • Format: Audio CD
  • Read by the author.In the spirit of Wendy Mogel s The Blessing of a Skinned Knee and Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman s Nurture Shock, New York Times Your Money columnist Ron Lieber delivers a taboo shattering manifesto that explains how talking openly to children about money can help parents raise modest, patient, grounded young adults who are financially wise beyond theiRead by the author.In the spirit of Wendy Mogel s The Blessing of a Skinned Knee and Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman s Nurture Shock, New York Times Your Money columnist Ron Lieber delivers a taboo shattering manifesto that explains how talking openly to children about money can help parents raise modest, patient, grounded young adults who are financially wise beyond their years.For Ron Lieber, a personal finance columnist and father, good parenting means talking about money with our kids Children are hyper aware of money, and they have scores of questions about its nuances But when parents shy away from the topic, they lose a tremendous opportunity not just to model the basic financial behaviors that are increasingly important for young adults but also to imprint lessons about what the family truly values.Written in a warm, accessible voice, grounded in real world experience and stories from families with a range of incomes, The Opposite of Spoiled is both a practical guidebook and a values based philosophy The foundation of the book is a detailed blueprint for the best ways to handle the basics the tooth fairy, allowance, chores, charity, saving, birthdays, holidays, cell phones, checking accounts, clothing, cars, part time jobs, and college tuition It identifies a set of traits and virtues that embody the opposite of spoiled, and shares how to embrace the topic of money to help parents raise kids who are generous and less materialistic.But The Opposite of Spoiled is also a promise to our kids that we will make them better with money than we are It is for all of the parents who know that honest conversations about money with their curious children can help them become patient and prudent, but who don t know how and when to start.
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    1. Jay says:

      You take a bit of a gamble when you read a book that covers the topic of raising children when yours are already in high school You can hope that the book suggests the best way is the way you did it Because otherwise, it s likely too late dealing with spoiled children obviously should start early But in this case, The Opposite of Spoiled does focus on issues that can occur at different ages, including for kids nearing college For younger kids, there s discussion about dealing with kids questions [...]

    2. Louise says:

      I received a galley of this from the publisher After reading the piece Ron Lieber did on the times about this very subject here , I was intrigued about the book While most of the information in this book won t apply to my child for a few years, it was still good to get the seed planted Like many Chinese, I grew up in a family where money was talked about a lot, so I couldn t really relate to some of the families in this book I still found it informational though, because the taboo about talking [...]

    3. Steve Peifer says:

      When you hear the uninspiring story of someone who lives in a 2 million dollar house who downsizes to a 1 million dollar house to display their social conscience, my response wants to be Good for them but I m afraid I struggled not to throw up in my mouth I love the idea of this book, and talking to your children about financial reality is a good idea, but perhaps it is geared to the 1%, of which I am not a member Let me quote They ve grown wealthy through long hours spent over two decades worki [...]

    4. Mike says:

      Did you ask a good question today Praise children for asking good questions and give straight answers so they will trust you.When asked a question by children, first respond why do you ask They may not be thinking what you are thinking, and it buys you time Fun ratio hours of fun per dollar spentMore good Less harm rule for needsKids are on a quest for dignity, feelings of self worth often rise and fall on constantly shifting standards around the possessions and experiences that matter in their [...]

    5. Rachel says:

      This was a one day read for me The book was easy to read, but the topic is something we discuss in our household without reaching any easy answers When kids are raised in a household that wants for very little, how do we teach them to be grateful for this abundance How do we start teaching kids financial literacy Kids are naturally curious and this book gives great advice about tackling questions related to poverty, charity, salaries, expenses, budgets, and decision making I ll be re reading thi [...]

    6. Christopher Lawson says:

      Practical, Lots of Good IdeasTHE OPPOSITE OF SPOILED is an extensive investigation into why kids are spoiled and importantly, what we can do to avoid that mistake There are lots of practical tips, interviews, and stories from families that have tried different methods to make your kids value work and spend their money wisely For example, the author gives an example of one family that calculates the most fun per dollar spent on their recreation The whole family gets together and discusses what s [...]

    7. M.J. says:

      Well meaning and possessing an interesting core discussion on the importance of raising children that are generous and primed to be financially intelligent adults, it nonetheless is overly padded with distracting anecdotes that read like rich people s problems that make the whole read seem superficial and frustrating.I purchased this book following an interview that the author, Ron Lieber, gave on Inside the New York Times Book Review podcast It was a very good interview with just enough to hint [...]

    8. Emily says:

      Concise, Clear, Concrete Those are the adjectives that make a good parenting book for me Presumably parents don t have a ton of time to read about parenting, so having a book that s on the spare side is a plus This book loses a little bit on the clarity point Lieber doesn t seem a hundred percent sold on his concept He s written a book that tries to address all social strata, but doesn t do so evenly the book is definitely geared toward the wealthy On concrete, there wasn t actually a plan to f [...]

    9. Charissa Wilkinson says:

      I received this book as part of the First Reads Program for the purpose of a fair review.Overview Mr Lieber has his reputation for being a money man for the New York Times How much help will this be when it comes to talking to children about money Let s find out, shall we Likes It s a good idea to keep your children s allowance free from being tied to their chores, but it should be tied to something My suggestion is to tie it to their self control They will work at it then Some of the stories, p [...]

    10. Online Eccentric Librarian says:

      More reviews and no fluff on the blog surrealtalvi.wordpress The subtitle is really the key to this book this is about everything having to do with money and raising kids to be smart about it from being honest about how much you make and other financial matters to learning to save, spend wisely, and give Raising kids who aren t spoiled isn t a main objective so much as a side result of helping them to be wise about money Note that it really isn t about ways for lower income families to deal with [...]

    11. Kate Schwarz says:

      I appreciated Lieber s thoughtful and intelligent book about how to raise kids who are thoughtful and intelligent about money Major take aways for me included Be honest about finances your own, your family s and other people s financial situations with your kids While it s easier to say we can t buy that it s usually honest to say but difficult to say we won t buy that explaining why that purchase doesn t align with your family s values takes time but teaches invaluable lessons when kids ask a [...]

    12. Daina says:

      First, to be nit picky, this book could have benefitted from better editing both with details too many sentences starting with so and the bigger picture Second however, I cannot justify giving it a lower rating, because the book raises and discusses issues that are too often overlooked in our society, or seem so overwhelming that no one wishes to ever address them in any meaningful way While the author s writing style can be a bit annoying, the book does contain many interesting anecdotes on how [...]

    13. Wainwright Yu says:

      Loved it Good mix of inspiration and practical advice Tried some of the age appropriate suggestions with my 3 year old and its producing results He now understands when he can t buy an 8 dollar toy car when he only has 3 dollars in his jar Plus, if he goes to a store and doesn t buy anything, he gets an extra dollar as a bonus for saving his money My son still ends up breaking the bank every so often but it s super cool to see him make his own money decisions.

    14. Thomas Kidd says:

      Quick yet tedious read Summary parents tell your kids no and make them work instead of letting them sit inside playing video games Common sense to most of us, or is it

    15. Patrick says:

      Being a parent is tough It s literally the most rewarding thing a person can do, but there is no instruction manual The thing you learn early on is that everyone is just winging it Your parents, your grandparents, Adam, Eve, Noah Winging it, every last one of them The problem with that is you second guess yourself constantly Am I doing this well Am I taking short cuts And the truth is, you ll never know for sure until it s too late, and you re either attending your kid s Ivy League graduation, o [...]

    16. Erin Goettsch says:

      This is a very hesitant 3 stars while I liked the ideas in this book some of them are really excellent , I did not actually like reading it Whoa dang the smug writing is hard to stomach Why so smug Just say your ideas, dude They re good You don t have to be an ass about it.

    17. Elizabeth says:

      I don t read many parenting books any and the ones I do read tend to revolve around specific issues, like how to talk to your kids about money This had a lot of good thoughts and practical ideas, a few of which my husband and I have already started implementing However, where it fell short for me was that many, many of the examples are from very privileged, highly educated families It feels like a book directed at the most wealthy families, even though he makes a point of saying that the average [...]

    18. Michele says:

      I grew up in a home where we just didn t talk about money I knew it was tight, and it was the reason why we could or couldn t do things, but that s the extent of it My parents still don t discuss money with me It feels so weird and counter intuitive, especially since money makes up a big part of our daily lives as we mature into adulthood we get a job so we can afford our lifestyle, whatever the lifestyle we choose This book gave me great ideas on how to approach these conversations with my daug [...]

    19. sleeps9hours says:

      Really disappointing, as I read Lieber s column occasionally and had high hopes Unfortunately, nothing new here I have kids in elementary school, but the book not only didn t offer anything interesting, it had some cringe worthy moments.Lieber seems out of his element He doesn t appear to understand the social issues around poverty and is instead revealing his own privilege in describing the world through his lens, a distorted view p 14.ere s no shame in having or having less, as long as you re [...]

    20. Ali Murphy says:

      I enjoyed Ron s book and it has already provoked some very thoughtful discussions with my husband about how we talk to our kids about finances Based on the stories and the suggestions in the books we are going to make some changes to how we handle our family economy We will still tie allowance to chores or requirements as they are called in our house as I did not find his argument at all convincing that the two should not be linked We will however allow freer access to the money they do earn goi [...]

    21. Anna says:

      The most helpful advice in this book can be found in the chapter about allowance chapter 3 Lieber argues for the allowance not tied to chores approach While 89% of families make allowance contingent on chores, he believes that children ought to do chores for the same reason we do because the chores need to be done, and not with the expectation of compensation p 46 His case is compelling, and after talking with my husband, we think it s worth a try We really like the idea that allowance is a mone [...]

    22. Brett says:

      This book is written like a newspaper article It explains, through example, how other people raise their kids in regards to money.It follows this recipe Any money that Kevin, John Smith s son from Sacramento, California, put into the savings jar he would match by 50% This teaches Kevin the way that 401 k savings plans work I prefer books that state a critical thought and then point examples of how this though was reached That is how I prefer my non fiction This book does not do that.

    23. Amy says:

      The concepts in the book are insightful but honestly it all could have been condensed into a blog post Nevertheless we are following the author s recommendations by dividing our allowance into giving saving and spending When my daughter blew all her spending money on junk from the Ren fair I smiled and let her buyers remorse set in The negotiations about what she is actually saving for has been priceless.

    24. Anna says:

      Although I do not have any children, and may never have, I have read a fair number of books on the subject of children and money This is by far the best Lieber explores so many issues and questions about money and really had me thinking about how I as an adult use my money and what that says about my values Lots of cute, and sometimes embarrassing, stories liven up the themes discussed and make it a fun, quick read as well.

    25. Rivers says:

      Good and very practical, a little heavy on the charitable giving side I realize that makes me sound like an ass.

    26. Janelle says:

      An anecdote When my daughter was born, we were living in a fairly affluent community in an area known for affluent communities While my husband and I are a hair s breadth away from being Favored Fifth, our neighbors were almost certainly over the line In a village of single family homes, we lived in one of the few multi unit buildings We worried over whether our daughter would feel the difference between what her classmates would have and what we would have.Against that backdrop, I found a delig [...]

    27. Larisa says:

      This has been a big topic of discussion in our household lately as we re beginning to consider the idea of allowances I appreciate this book s take on the subject, particularly not tying allowances to the completion of chores Chores are separate, something kids need to do around the house because they are contributing members of this little community, not because they have an expectation of compensation This also negates the bargaining of skipping chores if they re fine with not earning money No [...]

    28. Nupur says:

      1 Why we need to talk about money I don t need any convincing here I want my kids to know the basic of budgeting and personal finance before I send them out into the world The point I really liked in this chapter was this every conversation about money is also about values Allowance teaches patience, giving teaches generosity, work is about perseverance Be grateful for what you have, share it generously with others and spend it wisely on things that make you happiest.2 How to start the money con [...]

    29. Olivia Ard says:

      I heard about The Opposite of Spoiled through Ron Lieber s appearance on the Art of Manliness podcast last year His logical, thoughtful approach to teaching kids about money struck me, especially since many of them contradicted what I d always assumed I would do as a parent Providing an allowance in exchange for chores was a given to me until Lieber gave his counterargument that chores and household tasks are something that should be expected of every member of the family without reciprocation, [...]

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